I wonder if the world of weight loss would be improved if instead of diet companies, magazines, and TV shows telling us how easy it is to lose weight if we do x, y, and z, they told us how hard it will be.
Because here is weight loss in a nutshell:
Eating less is the best way to lose weight. You should find a calorie range that you can eat daily that will allow you to have a reasonable energy deficit. This means that you will be consuming less than you are actually burning. You can find out how many calories your body burns in a day by looking up your BMR (basal metabolic rate). Once you have your BMR, try to eat 250 calories less than that per day. If you also burn an additional 250 calories through exercise, you will be at a 500 calorie deficit. This kind of deficit can lead to losing one pound in a week.
You should move more than you currently do. This can mean any type of movement that your body enjoys.
This, friends, is straightforward. Tried and true.
I enjoy browsing the health sections of magazines and books at Barnes and Noble because the titles promise easy, simple, and fast solutions. I see meals plans that promise ‘no deprivation,’ ‘still indulge!,’ and ‘never feel hungry.’ I see promises and assurances about losing weight that only make me, someone who has lost half of herself, think:
It’s not easy, it’s not simple, and it’s not fast. You do sometimes feel deprived and resentful, and you do sometimes feel hunger pangs.
In my own weight loss journey, I was motivated by fear at first. I was afraid that I would just keep getting bigger and bigger until I reached a point where I would be too big to even move. I felt like I had no choice but to start losing weight. I also felt motivated to change my life for all of the beautiful joys of thinness that I was sure would come when the weight left me. For the good and bad, I was at least motivated.
I was enthusiastic about losing weight at first, wanting to win as badly as I want to win at everything else.
*Obsessive compulsive for the win.
I was angry and focused on some goal that I had set for myself, without considering if I could actually achieve it or if it was as close as it seemed. I have bad eyesight, so it's hard for me to tell distances accurately. Thankfully, the beginning part of this journey involved losing a lot of weight, which was not fun but at least it was over quickly. Now I feel full of energy and inspired, which is something newness does to me.
I started to feel bored with the whole process after some time. Newness evaporated like the morning fog and I began to feel bored with the whole process. I shuddered when reality reminded me that I would have to keep going for a long time.
I had been feeling confident about my bowling skills after bowling on lanes with bumpers for a while, but then I had to bowl on a lane without bumpers and it was much harder. I wasn't doing as well as I had been.
What happened next, just after I silently called myself a quitter, a loser, all manner of bad names, was a simple enough thought:
Oh, it’s just going to suck for a while.
Yes, that.
Just that. A heady dose of reality.
suck. I realized that weight loss would be difficult and would not come with a map or course directions.
suck.
Once I said this to myself, I could see the journey more clearly. I realized how far it was and how much strength I would need to get through it. I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I also knew it would have a good ending.
I'm not suggesting that you should only eat salads and steamed vegetables, I'm just saying that for me, weight loss wasn't just about giving up unhealthy foods. I still allowed myself to have treats and eat whatever I wanted in moderation. I simply became more mindful of what I was consuming and made better choices overall. Losing weight can be a rewarding experience, full of proud moments and a newfound sense of confidence.Set small goals for yourself and be proud when you accomplish them.